Boredom and sexuality unlike to walk hand in hand. In terms of sex, men seek differently goals sexually speaking. Maybe women look upon sex from a different angle as far as female sexuality is concerned. Get on top of sexuality traits of both genders with our sex therapist in charge.

I usually say that no relation is immune to routine, regardless whether trade, family, and love, sexual. Routine is only a matter of time, and no matter how hard one tries to get away or get around it, at some point, it catches up on you and your life gets stuck in a rut. Much as in sexuality, routine finds its way after sometime of relationship, being elapsed time highly variable, depending on each couple. A complaint from women in steady relationships, about the automatism on sexual relations with their sex partners, it is an old hat.

As time goes by, and due to the lack of it, more and more both foreplay and dating highly prized by women, get pushed aside, on a daily basis, whereupon stress, fatigue and financial matters, take over our space.

So much so, sex ends up by being a release valve, at times, turning out to be mechanic-like, with no great deal of concern towards romanticism or caress, solely sex for the sake of raw sex. This kind of demeanor is most of time a sex prerogative of the male kind, although certain women might display this kind of attitude as well.

Nevertheless, the general rule is that women, by and large, still long for that extra something other than simply rendezvous between the penis and vagina. Such is a routine of a couple after a long period of relationship in which, in either lesser or higher degree, weakens the relationship's core foundations, turning it less intense and susceptible to fall outs of cheating nature from both parties.

A man is a predator by nature and is always on the look out for a new prey and ready to jump on prowling. When finding, there begins a ritual of conquer and seduction, whose aftermath lies in the sexual act itself or in her runaway. So then, what should be done when there isn't, apparently, anything to be conquered or seduced anymore?

Therein lies the great male conundrum with respects to their relationship, where hangs a feeling that nothing else is left for discovery, an instance that might serve as an excuse for betrayal to come upon. Women on the other hand, begin to dream on their prince charming once more, handsome and well hung, being perhaps an easy prey for some interested man and who would run enticingly words and compliments by her. Then, at the wake of a stuck in rut routine and unsettled thoughts, it's needed to take action in terms of regaining momentum and thus revive sensations maybe forgotten or dormant.

Several are the manners of doing novelties; all it takes is a little bit of detachment, initiative and willingness of the couple. It's always such god idea to break a routine, even so for the odd weekend. A trip for two to an idyllic faraway place with no wall-to-wall people might be a god solution to spill the beans and try on new insights of romanticism. After all, doing things differently means getting away from daily routine.

Dr. Darci L. Duro Janarelli
Gynaecologist