Question and queries regarding sexuality of both sexes
are bread and butter in daily medical practice. Sex pace for one question
most frequently asked, whether men or women, both sexes share issues
of common ground on each other's sexual appetite. Some complain of partner's
wishes of having sex everyday, or even many times a day. For these folks
a situation such as this translates an abnormality in itself, since lacking
of the same level of libido, they take that their partners have an exaggerated
libido. In my own clinical practice, such complaint comes up mostly amongst
women, what doesn't necessarily means that men don't place it as well.
Others complain, on the other hand, that their partners don't
display the same desire or disposition as them. Such complaint more frequently
in the male population, what doesn't necessarily mean that women with the same
complaint don't exist.
As a matter of sexual frequency between partners, generally,
it's directly linked to each one's libido, as well as the sexual routine
by them established. Libido is the translation of the human sexual desire,
featuring variations of intensity- whether less or more, in different individuals.
As it so happens, when one of the partners displays stronger libido than the
other, in turn ends up by offloading a certain degree of discomfort on the sexual
relation, which it's denominated sexual inadequacy.
Yet, there are external factors that may interfere in sexual
life, by influencing directly on the libido, such as, social-cultural factors,
financial-matters, kids, family and work hectic, health problems, amongst others.
It means that, regardless of gender, the way individuals deal with conflicts
resulting from such factors, ends by interfering in their sexual appetite.
It's imperative to know if each one's libido has suffered alterations
over a given period, for example, if sexual appetite were intense and
from some point on turn out different decreasingly.
Seemingly, that in such cases scrutiny by a field professional
becomes hallmark in order to discard or diagnose any incipient dysfunction,
so as to treat it as precociously as possible.
As for sex pace, sex partners establish frequency
of sexual relations from scratch. I considered perfectly acceptable that a relationship
begins quite intense and as time goes by certain natural decline takes hold.
Bear with me that the middle-age period usually implies in physiological
drop in sexual desire.
Disregarding of the reason for discrepancies in levels of libido,
a catching up between the couple is essential in order to get around such nuisance,
often responsible for rows and disputes, thus rendering your sexual life
less frustrating and more pleasurable.
Kelly Cristine Barbosa Cherulli
