Responsibility of a sexual abuse is of the abuser always. Distinction between
the legal definition of responsibility and the psychological definition of the
abuse is generally misunderstood. There are two kinds of active participation.
-The great majority of the sexually
abused children plays no active role in the start of the abuse, but every child
takes part on the abusive interaction, even when compelled against his/her will.
-Sometimes , when sexual abuse includes no physical violence, the victim may “learn
to enjoy” the sensations caused by the sex abuse, once her erogenous zones are
stimulated, resulting some pleasure from it – this does not disqualify the sex
abuse !!
On legal side, to search for a rape exam is highly recommended. A collection of
forensic evidences including skin, hair, sperm, lint, saliva,or anything that
may help to identify the DNA of the aggressor. Is very important do not to change
clothes, or do a shower before running up tests. Those evidences may be of later
use, and could be decisive to place in jail the sexual attacker.
The attacker must be arrested,
no matter how distressed it leaves you. Is the only way to prevent him from
being on the loose again and keep at bay felony of this nature. Remember that
any sexual intent against your consent, whether fondling or else is derogatory.
It doesn’t matter if you were drunk or under the effect of other recreational
drugs, it’s still always a crime .
By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist | 
