They had a totally different past, however, lived in the same street, or in the same social sphere. And now they will be together, at least theoretically, good or bad, for all life. With a relief sigh, the new couple begins to feeling the sensation they command their own destiny. How to work with the sex since this moment?
Generally, the new couple like to be far away from they family and the diary routine, at least only some days. Traditionally, the honey-moon would be the first opportunity to have sex experience. Most of the people hope that this occasion is totally satisfactory, full of unforgivable pleasures to him and her.
Happily, since that don’t more exist the taboo of spell or write about sex, a growing number of couples knows that the immediately success in relationship is not necessary. The pleasure in relationships result, some times, from a long learning between the partners. The love turning more and more pleasant with the time and practice.
This is one of many occasions that the reciprocal consideration and patience will have a essential role in the couple life. Here maybe start the understanding, or de misunderstanding, between him and her.
In many different cultures, the honey-moon is specially important because gives to new couple the opportunity to get together not only sexually, but in different ways. We can be so sure that we love each other romantically and sexually, for example.
The problem is how to know that we can integrate these two loves in a third one: the affection. We like each other in the same way that we are in love or sexually involved?
Be in love turns more and more important as the pass of time. The happy marriages are, frequently, a equal combination of friendship and passion. In traditionally societies, the sexual life begins in the honey-moon.
Perhaps would be better considerate the return of honey-moon as the true beginning of marriage. And the honey-moon maybe would be a unworried rest, or a unforgivable vacation. While some time, the sexual enchantment of the new couple continues. But quickly, this sexual enchantment gives place to something that could be touching. That is to say, share the happiness and the difficulties of a quotidian life built together.
Depending on religious, cultures or even socials questions (about social class, for example), the sex before marriage is condemned or accept. In many tribes, sex and marriage are associated experiences. In others, the sex is a learning isolated from the marriage.
In Contemporary Occidental Society, the sex can be, or not, associated with the marriage. In the most part of the time, the sex is present in courtship. Done with safety, the sex in this phase of the life helps to introduce the youth in sexual life.
The ideal to having sex for the first time in marriage it’s so pretty. But it ends up not being efficient, starting fights between partners because they don’t have many time of coexistence. None marriage survive only with a good sexual relationship. In the same way, none marriage survive without a good relationship.
Jonatas Dornelles
Anthropologist | 
